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Empowering Children to Problem-Solve

Empowering Children to Problem-Solve

One of the things that we really stress at the center when we're teaching concepts is empowering the children to understand that once they go into name-calling or they're physically attacking, it escalates a fight. This is very different when we have safety concerns or they're becoming very physical. We're talking about a heated argument where you then facilitate and then remove yourself from the situation and watch as they try to work it through. If every time we come in and we take a side of a child or we take a side of the situation and try to manipulate it, we are taking away an opportunity for a child to problem solve on their own. When your child, children do calm down. I highly recommend if you return to the problem at hand, that you hear each of their perspective on the situation and give them a second chance at trying to problem solve through it. You will be so surprised that once they're calm and you then remove yourself from the situation, how they will start discussing ways that they could fix what happened. If you can't do that, I still recommend lots of role-playing and practice during calmer times in order to facilitate the fact that they can each feel the way they feel and that together they can commonly reach a solution. Problem solving is one of those skills that if we do it for our children, they will never learn how to do it. And this then escalates into later in life. And not being able to problem solve becomes a real detriment to really having successful relationships and success.

At the Bristow Center, we believe in equipping children with the skills necessary to navigate conflicts and challenges independently. Teaching children to problem-solve is crucial, not just for their immediate situations but for their long-term development and success in relationships and life.

Understanding the Importance of Problem-Solving

Problem-solving is a vital skill that children need to learn early on. When children resort to name-calling or physical reactions, it can escalate conflicts rather than resolve them. Our approach focuses on empowering children to understand the consequences of their actions and to find constructive solutions.

At the center, we employ specific strategies to enhance children's ability to handle disputes:

  • Facilitate, Then Step Back: During heated arguments, we guide the children on how to handle the situation and then step back to observe. This method allows children to apply their problem-solving skills in real-time without immediate adult intervention.
  • Avoid Taking Sides: It's crucial that educators and parents refrain from taking sides during conflicts. This neutrality helps prevent dependency on adult intervention and encourages children to navigate solutions independently.
  • Revisit the Problem: Once children have calmed down, it's beneficial to revisit the issue. Hearing each child's perspective again allows them to engage in a more productive discussion on how to resolve the conflict themselves.

Role-Playing and Practice

Practicing conflict resolution during calmer times through role-playing is another effective method we recommend. This practice helps children prepare for potential conflicts and understand that it's normal to have differing opinions, yet possible to find a common ground through discussion.

Teaching children to solve their own problems is an investment in their future. The ability to navigate conflicts and devise solutions is fundamental to maintaining successful relationships and achieving personal and professional success later in life.

Empowering children to problem-solve not only helps them handle immediate challenges but also prepares them for the complexities of adult interactions. At the Bristow Center, we are committed to nurturing these skills in a supportive and constructive environment.

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If you're struggling with this or other behavioral issues and need more personalized advice, don't hesitate to contact us for a consultation.

At Bristow Center, we're here to support you and your child through every step of their social development.

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